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BLCAD406: Hall Passes, Hoe-dometers & Why Men & Women Cheat

In this sixth episode of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition, hosts Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Just J, and Delvin The Expert dive deep into the delicate balance between love, loyalty, and lingering insecurities.
The conversation opens with a buzzworthy moment from college football. Travis Hunter, a breakout two-way player at the University of Colorado, has just delivered the game of his life. Yet as he steps off the field, eagerly looking to share his moment of triumph with his fiance, he’s met with an unenthusiastic and “stank-faced” reception. The hosts debate whether her timing and attitude spell doom for the relationship or if it’s simply an immature misstep by a young partner unprepared for the spotlight.
From there, SNM Jones introduces the concept of hall passes—those controversial relationship “breaks” that allow one partner to step outside the rules of monogamy. Are these passes a tool for strengthening trust and communication, or a ticking time bomb set to detonate the partnership? Just J cleverly ties the idea of hall passes to their original schoolyard meaning, drawing parallels to boundaries, trust, and the freedom granted in healthy relationships.
The conversation then turns to the idea of personal rebranding when it comes to sexual histories. Can a person truly “roll back their hoe-dometer” and present themselves as a different version in the future? Nic raises the question of whether treating sexual pasts like credit scores—factoring in both past missteps and the potential for growth and redemption—is a fair standard. The group wrestles with how much history matters, what forgiveness looks like, and whether judgments based on someone’s past can ever really be left behind.
Finally, they tackle the differences between men’s and women’s cheating, as inspired by comments made by Dr. Umar. Are we conditioned to view infidelity differently depending on who strays, and if so, why? The hosts share varied perspectives—some in agreement, some skeptical—sparking a nuanced dialogue about double standards, emotional contexts, and cultural conditioning.
Throughout this episode, The BLC Pod: After Dark crew keeps it real, raw, and thought-provoking. Join them as they mix humor, honesty, and insight to navigate the complex terrain of modern love. Don’t miss this wide-ranging discussion, and be sure to like, subscribe, and share to keep the conversation going.

BLCAD405: Swingers and Misses: Lifestyle & Curveballs

The fifth episode of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition features hosts Nic Nice, S.N.M. Jones, Kim Jones, and Just J as they dive into a lively discussion on modern relationships and societal norms. The episode kicks off with the buzzworthy engagement of Jonathan Majors and Meagan Good, sparking debates about public perception and the dynamics of their relationship. This segues into a thought-provoking conversation on whether waiting until marriage for sex remains relevant in 2024, exploring its pros, cons, and practicality. The hosts then delve into insights from Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, who links financial security and feeling “covered” by a partner to enhanced femininity and sexual expression. They dissect the interplay between finances, independence, and emotional connection. Finally, the group revisits the swinger lifestyle, addressing viewer questions about its implications on marriage, relationships, and societal stigma. Tune in for a fresh perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations. Be sure to Like, Subscribe, Follow, and Engage with us!

BLCAD404: S3x as a Weapon, Polygamy & Open Relationships

In the fourth episode of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition, Nic Nice, S.N.M Jones, and guest, Delvin The Expert engage in a lively discussion about the intersection of sex, politics, and relationships. They start the show exploring the recent rise in the 4B Movement, where women are reportedly withholding sex as a political statement following the recent election (00:05:13). The conversation delves into the implications of using sex as a weapon in relationships, the dynamics of withholding intimacy, and the broader societal context surrounding these actions. The hosts share their perspectives on the motivations behind these behaviors and the potential consequences for both men and women. In light of a recent conversation with Iyanla Vanzant on the Breakfast Club and her being open to polygamy, the crew asks should the Black Community be more open to alternative relationships (00:37:19)? They delve into the complexities of non-traditional relationships, particularly focusing on polyamory, cheating, and the dynamics of open relationships. In light of recent revelations that Cam Newton cheated on his girlfriend Jasmin Brown and she’s repeatedly accepted him back, they discuss the implications of emotional honesty, the societal perceptions of side relationships, and the importance of communication in navigating these alternative lifestyles (01:01:30). The conversation also touches on cautionary tales, particularly one involving Lil Scrappy and having a threesome baby (01:18:55). While having a threesome started out as a good idea, it came with a consequence, a child. While it is important to be able to have these conversations and talk about the positive things, it’s also important that we talk about their potential consequences, emphasizing the need for clarity and consent in all relationship dynamics. Tune in for a fresh perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations. Be sure to Like, Subscribe, Follow, and Engage with us!

BLCAD403: Politics, Passion, & P3nis Size (The Great Size Debate)

On this special third episode of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition, Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Kim Jones, and Just J break the show’s usual format to dig into the outcome of the 2024 U.S. Election (00:06:30). With Nic’s unique take on Kamala Harris’s loss to Donald Trump, the panel examines how voter demographics and social issues like misogyny and racism played into the result, debating whether the race was ever as close as it appeared. They question the state of the American electorate, and Nic suggests Trump may be the president “America deserves.” Shifting gears, the team tackles dating dynamics, asking when the “right time” to get intimate is (00:51:33). They explore dating strategies and setting personal boundaries. Wrapping up, they dive into a lighter but lively debate on “Does size really matter?”—covering everything from technique to personal preferences in this unfiltered, candid episode (01:20:24). Tune in for a fresh perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations. Be sure to like, subscribe, follow, and engage with us!

BLCAD402: Head Over Bills: Bad S3x, 50/50 & Oral: Dealbreaker or No-brainer?

In the second episode of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition, Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Kim Jones, and Just J dive into a range of taboo and hilarious topics. They kick off with a lighthearted chat on Halloween traditions—are they dressing up this year, and is the “sexy costume” thing still alive? Things take a spicy turn as they talk politics, touching on whether objectifying a female candidate holds up as “equality” when figures like Barack Obama have been subject to the same. Of course, they remind viewers of the real importance: exercising their right to vote. In the first big topic of the night, SNM raises a question we all think about but rarely discuss: Is everyone having mediocre sex? And if so, are people faking it? The hosts share their perspectives, debating why mediocrity in the bedroom may be more common than we realize and whether faking it is ever justified. Next, the crew explores the 50-50 relationship debate with a twist: If both partners are carrying equal weight in life, does that mean splitting intimacy equally? Can work, kids, and daily life impact expectations around sex? They dive deep into whether prioritizing each other’s needs can overcome the challenges of a busy life. And finally, they tackle a classic question—Is oral sex a dealbreaker? Some say it’s essential, while others think it’s negotiable. As always, the hosts bring the laughs and the real talk, serving up yet another episode full of bold conversations. Don’t miss this episode! Hit like, subscribe, and share if you’re ready for more from The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition.

BLCAD401: Why Sex is Taboo in the Black Community?!

In the Season 4 premiere of The BLC Pod: After Dark Edition, Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Kim Jones, and Just J kick things off with a lighthearted discussion about a playful campaign concept called #Kewchie4Kamala, exploring the idea of women using their influence to encourage their partners to vote for Kamala Harris (05:52). The conversation then shifts to a more serious topic: why sex is taboo in the Black community (12:56). They examine factors such as the influence of the church, the legacy of slavery, racism, and media portrayals that contribute to this cultural attitude. The hosts discuss the lack of open dialogue about sex among family members, partners, and within the community. They delve into how this taboo affects Black women’s sexual expression and satisfaction and the impact it can have on relationships (38:12). Balancing the conversation, they also address the effects on Black men, including the “Mandingo” stereotype and pressures of hypermasculinity, often stemming from societal insecurities and expectations (1:08:17). Tune in for a fresh perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations. Be sure to like, subscribe, follow, and engage with us!

OSC Ep. 5: Common Denominator: F*ckboys, V-Cards, & FATLASH!!!

In this episode of Off-Season Conversation, after acknowledging and wishing those dealing with Hurricane Milton the best, Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Kim Jones, & Just J start the show revisiting a topic discussed in the previous season, rapper/actor Common being a f*ckboy. In a recent appearance on The Jennifer Hudson Show, Jennifer asked Common about his recent comments about marrying her and he seemed to double down on his f*ckboy antics. Sides were clearly drawn, arguments made, and YOU get to be the judge. Is Common a F*ckboy? The gang turns their attention to the recent revelation that Tia Mowry was a virgin when she met her now ex-husband, Cory Hardrict, and wonder if that changes the perception about her. In the wake of her divorce, and several public relations gaffes, she became the avatar for modern men’s complaint about women leaving marriages and families, simply because she’s unhappy. With the recent admission, some wonder if this is her trying to spin the narrative in her favor, while others opine about the impact being a virgin and marrying the man you lost it to can have on a woman deciding to stick it out or leave the relationship. The group moves the conversation to Lizzo and her recent weight loss. In the age of Ozempic, some wonder if she lost the weight naturally. Others wonder if the constant cycle of losing weight, just to gain it back, while dealing with the issue publicly is actually impacting Lizzo negatively. And finally, the crew previews the next season of The BLC Pod: The After Dark Edition. After 3 seasons, everyone’s excited about heating things up and talking about in a way that only The BLC Pod can. The next season premieres Oct. 26, so stay tuned for that and so much more. Tune in for a different perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn't shy away from the tough questions and conversation. Be sure to Like, Subscribe, Follow and Engage!

OSC Ep. 4: No Way Out! Diddy Indicted & hit w/ the FREAK-O (RICO)!

In this episode of Off-Season Conversation, Nic Nice, SNM Jones, Kim Jones, & Just J discuss the recent arrest of Sean “Puffy” Combs on charges of racketeering, trafficking and more. The gang get into the details of the accusations, the alleged victims, enablers, co-conspirators, the process, the likely outcomes and implications. The dive head first (pause) into the Freak Off conversation and the implications that will have on this case and how it's perceived, as well as whether some of the laws claimed to be broken should be laws in the first place. The group acknowledges the conspiracy theories, whether there’s some validity to the concerns, who may be implicated, guilt by association, etc. They also discuss the equity, or lack thereof, in the criminal justice system, presumed guilt vs. innocent, prosecutorial misconduct, due process and so much more. Tune in for a different perspective and thought-provoking discussion that doesn't shy away from the tough questions and conversation. Be sure to Like, Subscribe, Follow and Engage!